Dad, Tell Me About the Time (56)

Wednesday, June 187, 2025

How are chores divided between males and females in your family?

We didn’t divide chores based on gender. We had a job chart, and it rotated every week. We didn’t care when they did their job, but it had to be done by Saturday. Weekdays were busy with sports and practices so the kids usually waited to do their jobs on the weekend, but they quickly figured out that if they wanted to hang out with friends on the weekend, they had to get their jobs done early. I can’t remember what exactly was on the job chart but cleaning their rooms would have been on every kid’s list. They would have rotated between cleaning bathrooms, family room, kitchen etc. 

What are some thoughtful things your kids have done for you over the years?

When they lived at home, the kids would often give us nice home-made cards with their heartfelt thank-you’s in them. Not so much as adults, but we still get cards from some of the kids. Every once in a while, they will come together and do something amazing like the photo album I described on Monday, September 16, 2024, and posted in my blog on September 18, 2024.

They have done other random things as well, like

    -    take us on cruises
    -     helped out on trips to Europe and Canada
    -     giving us old cars
    -     flown out to be with me during difficult times or to help with jobs that are too big for me to handle by myself
    -     I love how we are always included in fun activities like running races and floating down rivers.
    -     We also know that we are always welcome in their homes.

The one thing that all the kids do (some more than others) is to call us regularly to just chat. That is probably more meaningful than anything.

How did you teach your children what is essential in life?

I’m not sure how to answer this. I don’t think I ever sat them down and taught them this lesson. I guess I probably did it more like my dad did. Through example and random comments when we’re together. I would say things like:

“If you love what you do for a career then you will never work a day in your life.”

“No one ever said on their death bed that they wished they had spent more time at the office”.

“The only thing you can take with you to the next life are your relationships with other people”.

“The only organization from our mortal lives that will exist in the next life are our families”.

I think some of this got through.