Fred Leavitt
Wednesday, November 20, 2024
Dad, Tell Me About the Time (47)
Monday, November 18, 2024
Dad, Tell Me About the Time (46)
Monday, November 18, 2024
Can you draw or just doodle? Use these pages to sketch something you’ve learned to draw.
I love to doodle and to draw. I’m not very good but I enjoy it. I used to do it much more often than I do now but that is probably because I have very little spare time anymore. Rather than doodle something here I will just share a couple of paintings I did not long after we were married.
I know my life is crazy busy but I need to just make some time to start painting again. I know it isn’t that great but I enjoy it and my kids will have to tell me they like it. Maybe they will even put some on their walls.
Together we make a FAMILY.
A Family of my own
Kira
Anne Leavitt September 2, 1982 Edmonton, AB
Brandon
James Leavitt June 2, 1984 Brooks, AB
Benjamin
Scott Leavitt February 25, 1986 Brooks, AB
Alycia
Grayce Leavitt February 3, 1989 Brooks, AB
Alexander
Thomas Leavitt March 12, 1991 Brooks, AB
Sarah Christine Leavitt August 24, 1993 Poway, CA
What is the best thing about raising a child?
The best thing about raising
a child is that you always have an automatic friend. I know parents aren’t
supposed to be “friends” with their kids and that is true when it comes to discipline
etc. but you can still have rules and obedience with your kids as well as be
their friends.
For me, I love little babies
and because they are so sweet and loving, it is easy to over look the diapers
and crying etc.
When they get to about two
years old, they are old enough to get into everything but they are too young for
you to really communicate rules etc. I would be happy to give me kids away when
they turn two and take them back when they are four.
From four on every year
older they get the more fun they are. Once they get to eight or nine you can
start having philosophical discussions with them and as teenagers you can solve
the worlds problems. I love my kids and I especially loved them as teenagers
right up until they left for college.
Sending your kids off into
the world to fend for themselves may be the hardest part of having children.
Driving away from their apartments after having helped them get all setup is a
bag of very mixed emotions. After all, this is what you raised them for. We had
done all we could to prepare them for the world and while it is enormously
exciting (and fulfilling) to see them spread their wings and fly, it is so sad
to know that from now on they will not be a daily part of your life.
Thursday, November 14, 2024
Dad, Tell Me About the Time (45)
Anything special or unique about your spouse or being married that you want to share?
Dad, Tell Me About the Time (44)
Friday, October 11, 2024
What qualities are most valuable when looking for a life partner?
I am no expert in this kind
of stuff but having compared my life to others, I think the first thing I’d
watch for are some red flags. I know it seems unfair and unromantic but the
first thing I’d look for are signs of depression. I’d also look for signs of a
sociopath, physcopath and narcisists. Sociopaths and physcopaths are probably
pretty rare but depression and narcisists are for more common than I would have
thought. If your potential partner doesn’t suffer from any of those problems
then you can probably make anything work.
The problem is that people
can hide those traights for a long time when they are trying to impress you. That
is why I would go for a long courtship and short engagement. I figure that if
you’re looking for signs of a problem they will probably show up within six
months. Certainly within a year.
So, to answer the question
of what are valuable qualities, I would watch for kindness, patience and
someone who has similar views on parenting and budgeting as you do.
How do you keep a
marriage relationship happy and healthy with a house full of kids?
As much as I love my kids,
sometimes you just need to be alone with your spouse. While it isn’t always
possible, your goal should be to have a date night once a week and do something
you both enjoy. That means that until your oldest child is around twelve, you
need to find a good babysitter in your neighborhood.
Have you been married
more than once? If so, list each of your spouses’ full names.
Just once, thank goodness.
Have you been divorced?
What did you learn from that experience?
I’ve never been divorce but
from watching others go through divorces I’ve learned that you better put a lot
of thought and prayer into picking your partner. To be fair, people do change
and the person you marry can become someone completely different. As long as
people have their free agency there will be divorces. While divorce is awful,
it is often the best option for your own well being and for that of your
children. You should do all you can be keep it civil.
Have your ever been
widowed? What advice would you give to others who are going through the same
experience?
Thankfully I have never been
widowed and I have little advice to give others. When I go to funerals, I never
know what to say to the loved ones at the funeral. When my mother died, I paid
attention to what people said to me and perhaps the most meaningful thing
people said was, “I’m sorry about your mother”.
In the
moment, I don’t think it is helpful to remind people that their loved ones are
in a better place and that you will see them again. The pain can be so great
that knowing that the separation is only temporary doesn’t help much but, what a
comfort it is for us to know that the separation is only temporary.
Dad, Tell Me About the Time (43)
Wednesday, October 9, 2024
Do you have a special song? What is it?
While I love
good music, I have never sat and just listened to music. I prefer silence and I
contemplate things in my mind. I love to invent things. If there is a long
period of silence, I would prefer to listen to talk radio over music and now
days I will listen to a book on tape.
When Lisa
and I started dating, we would just talk, and since I knew nothing about music,
we never talked about music. For this reason, we really don’t have a song. The
closest thing we have to a “special” song is the song we danced our first dance
to at our wedding. That will now be our official special song. The only problem
is that neither one of us can remember what it was. Lisa assures me that it
will come to her.
What
activity is your favorite activity you do together?
Lisa and I love to do a lot
of things together but perhaps one of our favorites is to go for walks on the
beach. We don’t get out and do it often enough but we have walked at least
twenty different beaches in San Diego, many of them we have walked several
times.
In addition we have walked
beaches in Hawaii, British Columbia, Florida, Oregan, Mexico, Puerto Rico,
Bahamas, Grand Caymans, France, Belgium and probably others that aren’t coming
to my mind right now.
When you wake up each
morning, what is the first thing you notice about your spouse?
The first thing I notice
when Lisa and I get up in the morning is how she is just as beautiful now as
she was the day we got married. I am actually quite amazing at how well she has
aged. On Sundays, as I look out at the congregation I can’t help but compare
Lisa to all the other women out there. Of people her age, no other woman in the
ard comes close to matching her beautfy.
She is the prettiest woman in the building. She is more beautiful than
women much younger than her.
Thursday, November 07, 2024
Elder Bednar
Friday, November 01, 2024
Missouri - part 3
Tuesday, October 29, 2024
Missouri - part 2
“We swapped farms with a man, got one by the big mound, seven miles from the city, it was a fine pleasant place.”
Friday, October 25, 2024
Missouri
Monday, October 21, 2024
Saturday evening we returned from a five day trip to Missouri. The purpose of the trip was to be at Charlottes baptism but since we were going, we decided to take a couple of extra days and spend them in Nauvoo. We had a lot of very cool experiences.
To give you an overview, we
landed in St Louis late on Tuesday, rented a car and then drove to the Air BnB
where Brandon, Ally and Charlotte were staying. Wednesday we drove to Nauvoo
and spent the night in an Air BnB and then Wednesday we spent the day in Nauvoo
and drove back to St Louis. We dropped the car off at the airport and Brandon
picked us up. Thursday we checked out St Charles where Ally has lived for the
last twenty years or so.
Friday was the same but in
the evening we went to Boo at the Zoo at the famous St Louis zoo and then
Saturday was Charlottes baptism. We flew hom Saturday evening. It was a whirl
wind trip but very eventful.
Now for the details.
Other than Kira’s friends in
San Diego, nothing interesting happened on Tuesday. We landed late in the
evening and thankfully the Air BnB was only twenty minutes from the airport.
Brandon and Ally waited up for us but we all went to bed shortly after we got
there.
Wednesday we drove straight to Carthage. We were there nineteen years ago right after Brandon got home from his mission. Ben was on his mission and Kira was married so we only had the four kids with us. Carthage jail was the unchanged, but they’ve built a nice visitors center there. The tour of the jail was very solemn. It was well done.
We stopped at a small but rather amazing museum across the street from the jail. It would have been nice to spend more time there but our time was limited and we had to choose between the museum or Nauvoo. Nauvoo won.
From Carthage we headed straight to the vistors center in Nauvoo, learned everything we could about our ancestors and then took a wagon ride tour. We then took a tour of Joseph & Emma Smiths first home and the Mansion House. These were just recently purchased from the Community of Christ (formerly known as the Reorganized Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints).
When we finished that tour,
we saw a missionary couple named Elder & Sister Sommerfeldt. This couple
was not only on this tour with us but they were also on the wagon tour. They
were always with friends and we didn’t want to interrupt them but since they
were now alone we asked them where they were from. They were from some town in
Utah. We asked if they had any family in Alberta. Fara’s first husband was a
Sommerfeldt and Alma Sommerfeldt was quite possibly my favorite teacher in high
school. He taught me math.
He said he grew up in
Lethbridge and Alma was his uncle but as we got talking we could tell that we
connected on the Lybbert side as well. His grandmothers name was Ella Dora
Lybbert. It was a different Ella Dora than my ancestor but with that name we
had to be related.
We pulled out our “Relatives Around Me” app and we are second cousins. My Grandpa Lybbert (Lester) had a sister named Ella Dora and she was his Grandma. Elder & Sister Lybbert weren’t just missionaries, they were Mission Leaders (the new name for Mission President) of the Independence Missouri mission. There was a big Mission Leader Training session going on and they were in town for that.
After chatting with the Sommerfeldts, we checked out the Nauvoo House. This building was also aquired from the Community of Christ but it is not safe for tours and no work has been done on it yet. Frederick Kesler was there when Joseph Smith buried the orginal hand written manuscript in the South East corner stone in 1841 and then he was also there forty one years later when Lewis Bidamon opened the corner stone. Unfortunately, much of the manuscript was damaged by water. Bidamon was handing out the pages to anyone who wanted one. Frederick Kesler asked for a page and some guy ripped his page in half and gave Kesler half of a page. It is kind of sad but nearly ¾ of the manuscript has been not been recovered. This is Lisa chilling by where the cornerstone would have been.
We then attended an endowment session in the temple. There was a full moon which made the temple look very cool but this picture doesn’t look nearly as cool as it did in real life.
We then headed for our Air BnB and met the third person
with connections.