Wednesday, April 30, 2025

Dad, Tell Me About the Time (48)

 Friday, March 21, 2025

Are all of your children your biological offspring?

Lisa and I had no problems having children. We always planned ahead, picking what month we wanted a child and that was the month that we had a child. Lisa did miscarry once between Ben and Alycia but that was the only problem we ever had. We wanted our children spaced about two years apart and they were born as follows:

     Kira            1982
     Brandon     1984
     Ben            1986
     Alycia        1989
     Alex           1991
     Sarah         1993

While we had no problems conceiving and bearing children, several of our children did struggle. Kira couldn’t get pregnant and ended up adopting her first three children. They were then blessed to be able to give birth to a sweet little girl. Ben and Sharley had no problem conceiving but were unable to carry the child to full term. They finally figured out what was wrong and then with proper medication she gave birth to two more children. Sarah also couldn’t conceive until they figured out what was going on and with proper medication she gave birth to two beautiful children.

We have been very blessed through both adoption and the foster system. They both come with inherent problems and heart ache, but they are also great blessings. Kira and Justin’s oldest three are adopted and Ben and Sharly chose to foster two sisters at two different times. While they only fostered one at a time, for all practical purposes, they are now fostering the entire family of four girls.

Are any adopted?

See above

How did you react when you found out you would become a parent for the first time?

When we first got married, we wanted to have children as soon as possible. We were married July 11th but come October, when I was back in school, Lisa decided that maybe she would go to school and get a university degree also. As far as we knew, she wasn’t pregnant yet, so she quit her job and started submitting university applications. In November she missed her period. While it was a bummer that she had quit her job (the maternity leave would have been helpful) we were ecstatic. We never regretted starting our family early and every one of our children was planned and wanted. 

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