Friday, November 13, 2009


When it comes to Alycia growing up and leaving home I don't even know where to start. Of my three daughters I think Alycia is the one who is most like me. I guess I should qualify that however. Alycia has always been the life of the party, very fun and very popular. Everyone loves Alycia and they all want to be with her. In all of those respects she is like her mother and not at all like me. On the other hand she is smart, stubborn, argumentative and very reluctant to admit she is wrong but she is usually right and seldom wrong. In that respect she is much like me.

For most of her life Alycia and I were very close. We talked about everything and often got into very deep discussions. I would go and tuck her into bed at 10:00 or 11:00 and it would be midnight before I would get out of her room. Once she got into serious dating however her interests drifted elsewhere.

Alycia decided that she would go off to Snow College and spend one year with Ben and get to know him better. Ben had returned from his mission and was going to Snow so off she went with her brother. She was planning on getting a Social Science degree with a teaching composite. She wants to be a High School history teacher. She loved her first year at school.

Alycia is actually the one child who did take my advice when she went to college. She had a serious boyfriend when she went to college and they did agree to date other people. I fully expected that she would find some nice young man at college and completely forget her boyfriend that she left behind but unfortunately when she returned home and her old boyfriend returned home from NAU they hooked right back up again.

After her first year at Snow and especially when Ben decided to head off to Mesa College she decided to transfer to the University of Utah. This time when she was at school I began to hear more and more about this boy named Trevor. Trevor was from St George and had been on a mission to South Africa. We all expected to see a diamond by Christmas but the actual diamond didn't show up until the wedding plans were well underway.

Alycia and Trevor were married on August 11, 2009. One day before my birthday. It may have been the best wedding present I've ever had. Trevor and Alycia could both be graduating from the U of U this coming spring but Alycia will be doing one more year to get a minor in ESL and also to get her credentials.

Over the last year or so Alycia and I have regained that closeness that we used to enjoy. Trevor is planning on going to law school (what is it with my kids and law school) and I'm really hoping it will be somewhere near Southern California. It has been so wonderful to have Ben and Brandon within visiting distance and I would love to have Alycia where we could go visit without spending a day on the highway. Like I've said so often, the hardest part of being a parent is sending them away. Of course, the other side of that coin is that one of the best parts of being a parent is to see your kids make good choices and become well balanced contributing members of society. If everything else in my life ends up a failure at least I know that I've brought some really wonderful kids into this world.

Hospital-related infections leading to death are greater than breast cancer, car accidents and heart attacks combined.


Lisa L said...

I didn't expect a diamond at Christmas. Alycia was still wrapping her head around everything at that point. I did know they were going to get married at some point and probably the summer from the impressions I had already had. It wasn't until January that Alycia had made that pivotal turning point. I am so proud of how hard she has worked and how she is getting through her program much faster than most :) She will be an amazing high school teacher! Oh, and I just realized I didn't say anything about Trevor. We love Trevor and love his family. We are grateful for the way that they have accepted Alycia. That means a lot to me as a Mother.

Lisa L said...

Oh, and one more thing....I really miss having her bubbly personality around here and the way she would bounce through the door. I've always loved that with Alycia 'what you see is what you get'. You always know where you stand. Another thing about Alycia that I love is how passionately she feels for her family and loves her siblings. She went to Snow because she missed Ben so much while he was gone and she wanted that time with him. When siblings are going to be anywhere near where she is she will drop everything and plan around them so she can spend time with them. That also means a lot to me as a Mother.

Trevor and Alycia Crowley said...

p.s. If I had seen our family walking around at this point, I would totally think I was adopted. Three tan little brown hair kids and then me? haha

Trevor and Alycia Crowley said...

p.s.s. That Trivia you had we talked about in my economics class. Guns Germs and Steel perhaps?

Justin, Kira and Evan said...

I really like reading these "kid" updates :-)

Lynn said...

I agree with Kira. These posts are SO cool.

P.S. On another note......that trivia is SOooo true! My mom almost died, and my niece, Mikhala almost died from infections they received AFTER being admitted into the hospitals for surgeries.

Oh.....I must let you dad had a heart attack on Thursday morning. There's an update on my blog.

Fred ... said...

Actually that trivia is from my UofA Alumni magazine.

Trevor and Alycia Crowley said...

speaking of UofA... today at work a big package came in the mail of the Head Librarian, from the University of Alberta! haha i don't know why but i got really excited and giddy about it haha. I told her you went there.